A link to an online version
that is self scoring is HERE.
Do you want to have children at some time?
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A |
B |
C |
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1 Do you want to be a mom? |
Yes |
Maybe |
No |
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2 Is it important to you to continue the family name or bloodline? |
Yes |
A little |
No |
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3 Do you want to make a family with your partner? |
Yes |
Maybe |
No or n/a |
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4 Do you want to experience pregnancy and childbirth? |
Yes |
Maybe |
No |
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5 Do you have any medical conditions that will make pregnancy risky for you or the baby? |
No |
Unsure |
Yes |
Is now the time?
Emotional Readiness
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6 When you think about having a baby, do you feel mostly positive or mostly negative? |
Positive |
Unsure |
Negative |
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7 Are you willing to take the best care of yourself while you are pregnant? |
Yes |
Maybe |
No |
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8 Are you ready to make the compromises necessary to raise a child? |
Yes |
Maybe |
No |
Relationship Readiness
(single mothers skip this section and give yourself four extra points)
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9 Is your relationship stable and loving? |
Yes |
Unsure |
No |
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10 Do you and your partner both feel ready for children? |
Yes |
Unsure |
No |
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11 Do you and your partner generally agree on who will care for the baby, and how taskes, including earning a salary, will be distributed between you? |
Yes |
Unsure |
No |
Your Job
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12 How will your working conditions affect your ability to safely carry a pregnancy? |
No problem |
Unsure |
May be a problem |
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13 How will pregnancy and motherhood affect your career? |
No problem |
Unsure |
Negatively |
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14 Do you have successful pregnant or parenting role models at work? |
Yes |
Sort of |
No |
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15 Is your workplace family friendly? |
Yes |
Sort of |
No |
Childcare Options
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16 Do you have a good support system for after the baby comes? |
Yes |
Sort of |
No |
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17 Have you thought about how you (or your partner) will arrange for children, and what childcare options are available to you given your financial situation and personal beliefs? |
Yes |
Sort of |
No |
Finances
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18 Are you financially ready to have a child? |
Yes |
Unsure |
No |
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19 Do you have paid maternity leave? |
Yes |
Unsure |
No |
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20 Does your health insurance cover prenatal care? |
Yes |
Unsure |
No |
Your Health
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21 Are you healthy enough to have a baby now, or do you need to make some changes? |
Healthy enough |
Unsure |
Not healthy |
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22 Do medical problems or a history of a difficult pregnancy make it likely that you will have pregnancy complications? |
No |
Unsure |
Yes |
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23 Have you had a preconception appointment with your doctor or midwife? |
Yes |
No |
Parental Age
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24 How old are you? |
Over 38 |
32-38 |
Under 32 |
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25 How old is your partner? (skip and score as one point if not applicable) |
Over 45 |
35-45 |
Under 35 |
Scoring:
Give yourself two points for every A answer, one for each B, and none for each C.
35-52: Time to get moving!
21-35: In the “negotiation phase.”
Less than 20: Not ready.
